For some couples (I call them the “unicorn couples”), staying at home together 24/7 with nothing to do ways doing the nasty more than you did when you were first dating. But for a lot of couples, remaining at house indicates an absence of motivation, an abundance of takeout, and a disregard for fundamental health. To put it simply, your libido (and general intimacy in the relationship) has actually been on the lower side these days.

But with chilly temperature levels outside and a stay-at-home order still in effect, you’ve got nowhere to go. It’s the best time to reignite that stimulate with a little comfortable night at home. Whether you’re freshly dating or have been together for decades, consider this the extensive list of whatever you require for the romantic night you are worthy of (BTW, the exact same guidelines apply if you’re enjoying a night of self-love too). Get in the state of mind, light a candle light (more on that listed below), and have a romantic night in, thanks to these spark-igniting must-haves.

1. The right aroma

Candle lights not just set a romantic ambiance thanks to dim lighting and flickering fire (there’s a reason the sex scenes in every rom-com consist of candle lights), but sensuality is about awakening each of the senses, which consists of odor. While some fragrances might be arousing based on a personal memory (like rose from the perfume you wore on your wedding event night or vanilla from a cream you used on your very first journey away together), other fragrances may serve as aphrodisiacs. Try to find candle lights with hot notes like cinnamon and sandalwood, luxurious fragrances like vanilla and ylang-ylang, or unwinding fragrances like lavender and sage.

2. Bath (or shower) essentials

Getting “in the mood” is not almost the 10-30 minutes leading up to sex; it’s about constructing the anticipation throughout the entire day. Set yourself up for feeling your best by delighting in some self-care in the bath or shower. Try dry brushing, exfoliating with bath salts or body scrubs, and massaging in an oil. Oh, and don’t forget to check yourself out in the mirror (confidence is the # 1 finest sex hack!). Plus, a relaxing bath or steamy shower can be part of the romantic night if you wish to bring your significant other with you. After all, sex is self-care.

3. Luxurious beauty items

Speaking of self-confidence, how much enjoyment you feel is not identified by how you want to your partner, however it can be determined by how you feel about yourself (your partner is going to think you’re smokin’, no matter what). Buy products that make you feel excellent, whether it’s a complete face of makeup, a lightening up facial treatment, a spritz of fragrance, or a texture spray to Do It Yourself bedhead. Beauty is not about what we think we have to do to look excellent; it’s about indulging in ourselves (since we’re worth it) and keeping in mind how appealing we are (from the inside out). Get your glow on with the charm items that make you feel your very best.

4. Music to set the mood

Music informs us how to feel, and that goes for getting in the mood too. Make a playlist of the songs that make you feel positive, sexy, and romantic, or turn on our “Get Sexy” playlist, filled with all the songs 13-year-old you were scandalized by (in the finest method).

5. Lube

Our editor, Beth, even went so far as to say, “Personal lube is not an option in my book; it is a necessary tool for sexual enjoyment and health. Select a lube that will not only increase pleasure, however will be good for your vagina, thanks to non-toxic active ingredients, nourishing solutions, and treatment-like benefits.

6. Something pretty to wear

Disclaimer: if you feel your really best in your birthday match, you go, woman. If full-on underwear isn’t your thing, even a pair of new underclothing or a pajama set that makes you feel sexy can entirely revamp your sex life (yes, really).

7. An activity

You might not believe you require another activity than the activity, but explore conversation-starters like a couple’s journal or concern cards could not only break you out of your regular but might also assist you learn brand-new aspects of your partner and even inspire you to try new things (yes, even if you’ve been together ~ permanently ~). Specifically if communication in the bed room is not your strong suit or if you’re still figuring out what you like and don’t like, prompted questions can be an enjoyable, unwinding way to open up communication.

8. Vibrator or sex toy

If you feel stuck in a sex rut or have trouble orgasming with your partner (AKA 75 percent of women), the response may be incorporating a vibrator or sex toy. Exploring and attempting new things is constantly essential, however it’s also a good idea to have a go-to vibrator or sex toy that you both enjoy utilizing (and that you also enjoy using alone).

9. Elegant bed linen

Sex is better on trip? Whether clean sheets and crisp pillows are turn-ons to you or not, updating your bed linen can change up your environment, and simply a small modification can make sex feel new.

Speaking of self-confidence, how much enjoyment you feel is not identified by how you look to your partner, but it can be determined by how you feel about yourself (your partner is going to think you’re smokin’, no matter what). Make a playlist of the tunes that make you feel positive, attractive, and romantic, or turn on our “Get Sexy” playlist, filled with all the songs 13-year-old you were scandalized by (in the finest method).

If full-on lingerie isn’t your thing, even a set of new underclothing or a pajama set that makes you feel hot can completely revamp your sex life (yes, actually). If you feel stuck in a sex rut or have difficulty orgasming with your partner (AKA 75 percent of females), the response might be integrating a vibrator or sex toy. Whether crisp pillows and tidy sheets are turn-ons to you or not, updating your bed linen can switch up your environment, and just a small modification can make sex feel brand-new.